The Truth About Co-Sleeping: What Worked for My Family and Why It Might for Yours

As parents, we face countless moments where our children’s curiosity and high energy push the boundaries of safety. Sometimes, their repeated attempts to test those boundaries can be frustrating. The instinct to punish can arise, but I want to ask, have you ever felt judged for a parenting decision? I did, the day my landlord walked into my room, saw our co-sleeping setup, and said, "Yuck!" That moment could have made me second-guess myself, but instead, it solidified something for me: co-sleeping isn’t for everyone, but it has been life-changing for my family—and I wouldn’t change a thing.

Co-sleeping is a topic that sparks endless debates among parents. Some swear by it, while others see it as a habit to avoid. As a mom who has co-slept with her children, I want to share my perspective—not to convince you, but to offer reassurance to those who choose this path. For me, co-sleeping has been a source of comfort, connection, and bonding. It works for my family, and it might work for yours too based on your preferences and beliefs.

Why I Chose to Co-Sleep

When my son was a baby, co-sleeping felt like the natural choice. Having him close meant I could easily breastfeed during the night without getting out of bed. His tiny feet moving around and his peaceful breaths in my arms were moments of pure love and connection.

As he grew older, co-sleeping became more than just practical—it was a way of nurturing our bond. His comfort in having me nearby reassures him, and it strengthens the love we share. One of my favorite memories is waking up to his sleepy smile, a reminder of the trust and love that warms my heart and soul.

Addressing Criticism and Respecting Choices

Over the years, I’ve faced plenty of criticism for co-sleeping. Friends have suggested I train my son to sleep in his own bed, and even my landlord had opinions about our family sleeping arrangements. Here’s the thing: everyone has the right to choose what works for their family. Co-sleeping brings joy and security to my home, just as separate sleeping arrangements work beautifully for others. Parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all, and it’s important to respect each other’s choices. I’ve also learned that parenting is full of moments where people offer their opinion about other kids and advice about other people’s children. The key is to filter what aligns with your values and let go of the rest. It is your life and, most importantly, your children that matter and have the right to choose what works.

The Benefits of Co-Sleeping:

• Emotional Connection: Co-sleeping creates a unique opportunity for closeness. My son’s touch and the comfort of having him near bring peace to both of us. It’s our way of saying, “I’m here for you.”

• Practical Convenience: As a breastfeeding mom, co-sleeping saved me countless trips to another room at night. It made feeding easier, and both of us got more sleep as a result.

• Building Security: For children, the nighttime presence of a parent can reduce anxiety and promote better sleep. It’s a simple way to create a sense of safety and love.

• Creating Lasting Memories: These quiet, intimate moments are fleeting. Co-sleeping has given me precious memories that I’ll cherish long after my children outgrow the need to share a bed.

Respecting Every Parenting Style

Not every family will choose co-sleeping, and that’s okay. Some parents prioritize teaching independence through separate sleeping arrangements, and that’s just as valid. The beauty of parenting lies in its diversity. What matters most is doing what feels right for your child and your family. As much as I love co-sleeping, I also admire parents who train their children to sleep independently. Every approach has its strengths, and we can all learn from each other.

 A Note to Parents Who Co-Sleep

If you’ve chosen co-sleeping and faced criticism, know that you’re not alone. Parenting is full of opinions, but only you can decide what works best for your family. Co-sleeping isn’t about spoiling your child—it’s about offering comfort and love in the way that feels most natural to you. Trust your instincts and enjoy the joy that comes from these shared moments. And if you’ve been on the fence about co-sleeping, remember that it doesn’t have to be permanent. It’s okay to try it and see if it works for your family. There’s no one right way to parent.

Every family is unique, and every child has different needs. Co-sleeping has been a beautiful part of my parenting journey, offering a bond that words can’t fully describe. It works for us, and if it feels right for you, it might work for your family too. At the end of the day, the most important thing is to parent with love, respect, and confidence in the choices you make.

“Every family is unique; parenting choices should be celebrated, not criticized.”